Disclaimer: I wrote this within the first months of marriage. It’s so weird how we have gotten into a grove and figured out our own way of decision making.
Enjoy this oldie!
Who you gonna call….?
Decision making. Something that all couples face. I mean, even my husband knows me well enough that it will take me over a half hour to decided what and where I want to eat. And my husband also knows that if he asked if we should get a puppy that I would say yes in a heartbeat. But unfortunately all the toughest decisions that a couple will make will not be whether to get sushi or pizza, a yellow lab or an akita. And btw, I would 7 out of 10 times pick sushi because I can never pass on a good salmon avocado roll and miso soup.
Adulting is Real
And so we are left with the true difficult decisions that occur more than we’d like. Finances, kids, family, jobs, and all other things that couples make decisions on. Ahh gotta love adulting. Being able to have a cold brew or dry red wine is the only perk there is when you have to adult.
Calling the “Coop”
When I got married and moved out of my parent’s house I soon learned what real adulting was like. In the past, whenever I had to make a difficult decision, I would turn to my parents for advice. I valued their thoughts and it was always good advice that they gave. But, when the decision was more of a decision that a couple needs to make, consulting your parents first isn’t always the best way to go. That was and still is a lesson that I learned and am still learning.
Hubbies Come First
When you consult your parents first it can be portrayed as undervaluing your partner. My hubby requests that I start going to him first for advice on what we should do because ultimately the decision will affect both of us in the end. Doesn’t mean you can’t still consult your parents for advice, it just means that it’s important to show that you care about what your partner thinks. We will still consult our parents because they have much more experience of life than we do, we will just switch the order of when we consult them.
1, 2, 3 team!
There will be future blogs that will go a little more in depth about decision making but there is one main thing that I wanted to get across other than yes, adulting sucks. This is to first consult the person you go to bed with every night when making decisions. It is new to me but I know that my husband appreciates it and it shows that I value his advice, input, and most importantly, him.
Written: February 2018